First confession being that I am a Mom-Zilla.My four month old daughter is the absolute apple of my eye - I love her so much ! My husband is an absolutely awesome dad and husband - I am so grateful for him. I think the both of us are doing a great job. Being a first time mum , I suppose I can get sensitive about certain things and perhaps take them too seriously.

What I can't fathom is why at times other mom's are the one's sending jabs. I guess what I could do is "just go with the flow" or "let them be" as my more experienced sisters advise. Sometimes you can't always let things go or "be the better person" .   Some people are just plain rude and sometimes it helps to be a bit snarky back.

Parenting is difficult! Rewarding and fun but it is difficult - physically, yes but also emotionally and mentally. So why the hell that instead of being supportive some parents are so judgemental. 



1. It must be hard missing all those special moments every day.

2. I suppose it's smart that you're working. You know, in case your husband leaves you some day.

3. I'm surprised you went back to work. Your husband seems so successful.

4. Your baby will know the nanny better than you

5. I just love my kids too much to leave them during the day.

6. Did you see Dateline? The one with the hidden camera in the day care?

7. I could never let someone else raise my children. But that's just me!

8. I hated my mom because she was never home after school like everyone else's mom.

9. You must feel so guilty.

10. I wish I were as laid-back as you and could just let the housework go.

—Liz Gumbinner of Mom-101.com, with help from her blog readers





Update : My baba is now 9 months old and she is the most awesome kid ever ( biased because I am her mum) . She also know that I am her mum and the nanny is her nanny and she can say Mom! I still don't like leaving her in the morning and now she is more aware of it but I have to do what I have to do. I just know that when I am home from work that I make an effort to be a more present and "there" and not on Facebook and whatnot.

Confessions of a Mumzilla :Things mums don't want to think about.

You know sometimes I feel like I live in two different worlds and when I think about it or when it seems to all become too much I get so down. I have been feeling down lately - could be lack of sleep, a despicable diet, guilt over leaving my baby to go to work, #firstworldproblems or just having one of my where-is-my-life-going dips. It can also perhaps be attributed to the fact that I have read three Khaled Hosseini books back-to-back. That I work and work and work and don’t have time for much else. That life has settled into a terrible tedious routine and dressing up and going out has become a schlep. It happens every now and then. This affliction of having the time and privilege to feel dissatisfied with a good life.

I live in plush suburbia with all the trimmings and I have a beautiful private practice around the corner where I do exclusively aesthetic medicine (Botox, fillers, chemical peels and the like). I also work (slog) at a state practice as a dentist daily in Phola Park, Thokoza . Every day I drive from nature estates and private gyms and houses that loom like behemoths into the township - for the past 7 years - can you believe it. Also with its dust , rocks , shacks, bond houses and unaccompanied children running about the streets.

Last Tuesday as I was driving in I saw a boy -perhaps 2 and half years old holding the hand of ,I assume, his little sister . She was perhaps 18 months old . They were so small. Crossing the road by themselves, stopping before stepping off the curb. Before I drove past the little boy held her hand so tightly and tugged her back protectively. I looked into my rear view mirror to watch them walk - they were alone! Where were these kids going alone? And I just drove past to work.

Last week I read the story of a 4 year old girl right here in Thokoza found hanged and possibly raped . These stories scare me because I am a parent of a little girl. They seem remote when I read them on IOL – horrific but still distant. It is so far removed from our reality that while we are upset by it all we don’t know what to do about it. So nothing is done.